Many couples come to therapy feeling stuck in the same conversations or conflicts over and over again. One partner may feel unheard or criticized, while the other feels misunderstood or shut down. Over time these patterns can create distance, leaving both people feeling frustrated, lonely, or unsure how to reconnect. It’s surprising how easy it is to feel alone or unseen, even in a relationship where love is very much present.

My work with couples is grounded in attachment theory. Often when conflict escalates, it’s because something deeper has been triggered. A fear of rejection. A fear of not being valued. The sense that the relationship itself might be slipping away. In those moments, people tend to fall into familiar roles or reactions that protect them emotionally but also make it harder to feel understood.

In our work together, we slow those moments down and begin to understand what’s happening for each partner beneath the surface. As couples start to recognize these patterns and the emotions driving them, it becomes easier to respond to each other with greater clarity, empathy, and connection.